Picture a psychologist in your mind: someone kind, thoughtful and helpful, who can guide you through issues and help you overcome difficulties. Do they have a gender? While, of course, any person of any gender can become a great psychologist, new nilo data proves what many of us may instinctively feel: most people prefer a female psychologist.
But why is that? Is there a stigma against male psychologists? Are women somehow ‘better’ at helping us navigate our issues? Can non-binary and male psychologists also make an impact? And what exactly does the data say? We’ll answer all those questions and more in this guide.

Does psychologist gender matter?
When choosing a psychologist, many people have preferences around gender, identity, communication style, or lived experience. These preferences do not determine whether someone is a good psychologist, but they can influence how comfortable a person feels opening up and building trust.
How many people prefer a female psychologist?
According to nilo’s new data, the answer is: most people!
Our new study lays out some fascinating figures, including:
- 74% of nilo users prefer female psychologists
- 56% of male users prefer female psychologists
- 86% of users who wish to focus on family issues prefer a female psychologists
We also discovered some interesting cases where the data showed less emphasis on female psychologists, even if the majority preference still went towards women. For example…
- Amongst male users, the preference for LGBTQ psychologists is significantly higher than for female users: 16% of male users prefer LGBTQ psychologists, vs 5% of female users.
- Users who wish to focus on addiction have a higher than average preference for male psychologists.
- Users who wish to focus on management issues have a higher than average preference for male psychologists, particularly amongst male users: 50% of men focusing on management prefer female psychologists, while 44% prefer male psychologists.
- The preference for female psychologists drops slightly amongst Gen Z and younger users, who are more likely to show a preference for LGBTQ or POC psychologists.
But even these interesting cases all fell within the remit of a strong preference for female psychologists. That makes it all the more fascinating to explore exactly why our users—and many people seeking therapy—are so driven toward female psychologists.
Why are there more female psychologists than male psychologists?
One explanation could be a simple fact: female psychologists outnumber men in their field. The American Psychological Association highlights that women make up 76% of new psychology doctorates, 74% of early career psychologists and 53% of the psychology workforce. (Despite this, women working in psychology still face significant pay disparities.) And nilo’s own data backs this up: amongst our pool of leading global psychologists, 79% are women.
Of course, the fact that there are more female psychologists than male doesn’t mean that people can’t request a male psychologist. However, it does mean that we might be more accustomed to seeing female psychologists at work.
When someone considers therapy, they might ask for a female psychologist to match the picture in their head.
Similarly, if someone has already had a therapist they loved who was a woman, they might associate her skill with her gender and ask for another woman the next time they seek out therapy.
Do gender stereotypes influence psychologist preference?
A more complicated reason might be associating female psychologists with feminine stereotypes: some of them old-fashioned, some of them even sexist. Too often, our society tells us that women are meant to be nurturers, gentle, caring, empathetic, attentive and used to listening to others. Although these stereotypes often backfire on women, they are undoubtedly useful qualities in a psychologist!
Some data suggests that these stereotypes may have elements of truth to them. A Finnish study found that female therapists counseling patients with substance abuse issues were significantly friendlier and more empathetic than their male colleagues. The results were much higher success rates in treatment, as therapist empathy can explain as much as 67% of variance in treatment outcome.
nilo’s data, however, shows that this stereotype is a double-edged sword. The fact that users had a higher than average preference for male psychologist when it came to management issues might show that we are more likely to associate men with business success. And there are many empathetic male psychologists able to offer inspiring and life-changing support to their patients.
Is there stigma against male psychologists?
One question that might rise from this data is if we have an unfair bias against male psychologists. An investigation from the American Psychological Association worried that the growing numbers of female psychologists and psychology students might backfire in a lack of diversity in the field. But nilo’s data shows that actually, men often prefer to speak to a woman.
“Clients like to see people who look like them”
Carol Williams-Nickelson, PsyD
Executive director of the American Medical Student Association and Foundation
We don’t need to worry too much about “reverse sexism” in the psychology field. Despite the fact that women make up the majority of psychologists studying and practicing today, there is an average wage gap between male and female psychologists of $20,000. Female psychologist professors have a longer road to tenure, and male psychologists’ articles are cited around 30% more than their female peers’.
Male psychologists are also more likely to receive more awards for investigative work. And the big names in psychology history are all men: Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung and co., ignoring the work of important women like Mamie Phipps Clark, Martha Bernal, Karen Horney and many more.
Does it matter whether you choose a female or male psychologist?
The gender of a psychologist can matter to some people, especially if it affects how safe, understood, or comfortable they feel in a session. However, gender alone does not determine the quality of support.
The therapeutic relationship depends on many factors, including trust, communication style, professional experience, cultural background, and personal chemistry.
Why choice matters when choosing a psychologist
The significance of diversity in the field is crucial. The good news, though, is there are plenty of brilliant male psychologists working alongside their female colleagues. For users who prefer to speak to a male psychologist, there is no lack of options — nilo’s pool of global psychologists, for example, includes many wonderful male and non-binary psychologists, alongside their female colleagues.
In general, the question of whether a psychologist will work for a patient is much more about their individual chemistry. Gender plays a role in this chemistry, but it’s not the only element that makes a massive impact on the patient/therapist dynamic.
Other factors include other identity markers like race, sexuality, and class, as well as subjective components: communication style, sense of humor, and many more. Here at nilo, we developed an algorithm to pair psychologists and users in order to help find the best match amongst all these elusive elements.
Ultimately, this is a decision about your own mental health and how best to take care of it. If you have a preference for a female psychologist—you’re clearly not alone! If you feel like a man is better put to help you, there are many amazing male psychologists out there to speak to.
If you’re unsure, keeping an open mind and seeing who you connect with is also a great approach. The most important stigma to break is not against male psychologists: it’s against seeking the mental health help you need.
Frequently Asked Questions About Choosing a Psychologist
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Is it normal to prefer a female psychologist?
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Yes, it is normal to have a preference when choosing a psychologist. Some people feel more comfortable speaking with a female psychologist because of past experiences, cultural expectations, personal identity, or the topics they want to discuss.
However, preferring a female psychologist does not mean that female psychologists are automatically better. It also does not mean they are the best choice for everyone. Gender is only one factor in finding the right match. Some people may feel more comfortable with a male, non-binary or LGBTQ psychologist, or may prioritize topic expertise, language, communication style, or cultural background. What matters most is that the person feels safe, respected, and able to open up.
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Are female psychologists better than male psychologists?
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No, female psychologists are not automatically better than male psychologists. While some people may associate women with empathy, care, or emotional support, effective psychological support depends on much more than gender.
Research on psychotherapy consistently points to the therapeutic alliance, meaning the trust, collaboration, and shared understanding between client and therapist, as one of the most important factors for positive outcomes.
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How do I choose the right psychologist?
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Choosing the right psychologist starts with asking what would help you feel safe, understood, and able to speak openly. Gender can be one factor, but you may also consider topic expertise, language, cultural background, communication style, availability, and whether the person has experience with your specific concerns.
A first consultation or introductory session can help you get a feeling for the match. Pay attention to whether you feel listened to, respected, and comfortable enough to continue. And if it does not feel right, it is okay to switch. Finding the right psychologist can take more than one try.